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Fear is the enemy childbirth.\u00a0 Fear of the unknown. Fear of pain. Fear of an intervention or a poor outcome.<\/p>\n
Fear can stop you in your tracks. Leave you frozen, unable to move forward and unable to move backward. Clarity of thought disappears, your muscles lock up, tension increases, and pain, both perceived and real, is magnified.\u00a0\u00a0Managing fear is critical in childbirth. With training and practice, it is possible to disengage from the fear.\u00a0 In order to do this, you must recognize the fear, stop, take a minute to breathe and practice the techniques outlined below.<\/p>\n
Fears Related To Childbirth<\/b><\/p>\n
In this exercise, you will begin to work through some of the feelings you have about childbirth. It will help you to understand how you talk about childbirth affects your birth outcome. You will also come to realize that other people\u2019s comments and ideas might be influencing your beliefs about giving birth.<\/p>\n
Finish the following statements about your experience and your feelings.<\/p>\n
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Open Up<\/b><\/p>\n
Let go of what you have been told to do. Release the expectations of mass media, family histories, and stories from your peers. Give yourself the gift of imperfection and let go of \u2018what should be\u2019. Instead, embrace the freedom to move forward without expectations.<\/p>\n
Develop your own vision of self, self-confidence, and power. Empower yourself with an understanding of the process and education of the event. Giving birth is about allowing your body to open, letting that which is inside to come out.<\/p>\n
How women give birth is an individualistic experience. It embraces many possibilities. Yes, there are common threads experienced between all women but each woman must birth alone in partnership with her baby, with her support network at her side.<\/p>\n
Relax<\/b><\/p>\n
When you fight labor with your body, your mind or your emotions, labor becomes a long, painful, and unproductive process.\u00a0 In order to relax, you must trust that childbirth is normal, that your body is capable of giving birth and those around you desire to help you have the best possible experience.<\/p>\n
Relaxing requires so much more than being able to physically flop. It starts with becoming loose and trusting those around you and then it requires surrendering. Surrendering means letting go of fears, anger, and frustration.<\/p>\n
It takes courage to face birth and surrender to the process. Women can create a vision of the own birth: focused, directed, and expansive.\u00a0 I encourage you to take the time to educate, prepare, and practice daily coping techniques so that you are prepared for childbirth.<\/p>\n
Believe<\/b><\/p>\n
If you have fears, doubts, or concerns about birth, take a minute to examine what you believe to be true and why. Enroll in a comprehensive childbirth class, do your due diligence, hire, and work with your doula in order to have a better understanding of your options.<\/p>\n
Believe your body was designed to give birth. You are capable and designed to birth.\u00a0 Generations and generations of women in your family have birthed their babies. Thousands of women are laboring with you today at this moment. You are not alone.<\/p>\n
Believe that your baby needs you. You are the only one who can do this. Each decision you make for your baby is important. And you are the best person to make those choices.<\/p>\n
Believe you can find the support you need and do it. There are excellent providers with good bedside manors who will be patient with your questions. Hire a doula to support you on your journey.<\/p>\n
What you believe does matter. Women who are confident in their ability to handle labor report less pain during labor. Take the time to find the faith you need to give birth. And when you speak about your upcoming birth speak with confidence.\u00a0 “I will have \u2026.( a VBAC, a rainbow baby, an empowering experience).”<\/p>\n
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