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The Grieving Body: a Body Without a Baby<\/h1>\n

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After a miscarriage or stillbirth, the body grieves. There is the emotional and spiritual pain of the loss of living in a no-longer pregnant body.\u00a0 Depending on the length of the pregnancy the reflection in the mirror may appear suspended between being pregnant and not being pregnant.<\/p>\n

Today\u2019s society does not publicly talk about loss, miscarriage, and stillbirth.\u00a0 And no one talks about the post-miscarriage body.\u00a0 Instead, we focus on the raw intensity of loss and the perception of feminine failure. The loss mother needs compassionate care that addresses all three aspects of healing: mental, emotional, and physical.\u00a0 These mothers need to mourn the loss of their baby, the loss of their hopes and dreams, and the loss of the family they imagined.\u00a0 The loss of a child is complex.<\/p>\n

Having a realistic understanding of how the body grieves can help the mother and her support team in creating a safe and non-judgmental environment for healing.<\/p>\n

Sleep<\/strong>– Everyone reacts differently to stress. Some mothers may have difficulty sleeping, falling asleep, or staying asleep.\u00a0 Others will sleep frequently. The Bach products called Resume Remedy<\/a> and Rescue Sleep<\/a> can be effective aids for this time period.<\/p>\n

Appetite<\/strong>– Like sleep, some women will stress eat in stressful situations and others will avoid food.\u00a0 Having small snacks, like trail mix or hardboiled eggs, placed around the house can help to nourish the healing body.<\/p>\n

Cramping<\/strong>– After a vaginal delivery, it is common for the uterus to cramp for about 3 days post-delivery.\u00a0 Motrin and homeopathic remedies can assist in healing.<\/p>\n

Lochia<\/strong>– Post-delivery bleeding comes from the placenta site. It starts off bright red, slows to pink or brown, and then stops over three to five weeks.<\/p>\n

Lactation<\/strong>– Starting in the second trimester the breasts prepare for birth. So, it is not uncommon to lactate after delivery.\u00a0 Some women choose to dry up their milk with antihistamines and sage tea.\u00a0 Others may choose to express and donate their milk to help other preemies or newborns as a gift in their child\u2019s memory.<\/p>\n

Normal mood changes- Grief comes in five stages and each stage takes the time it needs. The stages are listed numerically but may be experienced out of the order listed:<\/p>\n

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  1. Denial and isolation;<\/li>\n
  2. Anger;<\/li>\n
  3. Bargaining;<\/li>\n
  4. Depression;<\/li>\n
  5. Acceptance.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    My hope is that understanding the normal process of how the body grieves may help women to be kind to themselves. And women can feel safe respecting their body\u2019s grieving cycle as they honor their emotions.<\/p>\n<\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    After a miscarriage or stillbirth, the body grieves. 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